I remember it even now to this day. Robert was off at work and I was home watching my two girls. I sat back and watched my two daughters playing and it brought a lump to my throat. I kept thinking to myself that I also had a sister but I didn’t know where she lived. All that I knew was that she was living with my mother in England and I had lived with my grandparents on the remote island of St Helena. My mother would send photos of my sister and she was a pretty child. I would cherish these photos and take them everywhere with me. I would even feel very proud to have a sister even though we were over 6000 miles apart. I am sad that my sister and I didn’t get the chance to grow up and play together like my daughters did. I did get to meet my sister when I was 23 and she was 18. It was so amazing to meet my sister after all these years that we had spent apart.
I went to her wedding and her children’s christening and we then we would visit each other. We do keep in touch through social media and we have not seen each other for around 10 years however we did get to meet up at my grandson Albert’s christening. It was so lovely to see her and her beautiful daughter. She hadn’t changed at all.
I was sad as I watched her leave the party because all my life I had a sister but we lived 6000 miles apart from each other.
My family means everything to me. I have two daughters three grandsons and a beautiful granddaughter Elizabeth. My younger daughter was born several years later and my oldest daughter was so excited when I brought the new baby home and she referred to the new baby as her baby. It was a pleasure for me to watch the girls play together. They got on very well even sticking up for each other when they were told off. The girls remained firm friends all through their childhood into their teens.
My oldest daughter had always wanted children and she was devastated when she was diagnosed with polycystic ovaries. This can make getting pregnant quite difficult if not impossible. It is a hereditary condition and I believe a relative of hers also had been diagnosed with the condition. They were diagnosed with the condition on St. Helena many years ago. The woman had died not having any children of her home. I am glad to say that my daughter now has two beautiful children. Bob and I really love our grandchildren and elated that she was able to have two healthy children.
Like I see my daughters I would really like a mother and daughter relationship with my mother. I would like us to visit each other on a regular basis. I would go to see my mother with open arms. I would really like to be with her and I would love her to invite me to her house for tea. It would really make my day if she sent me some flowers.
I can clearly remember one time that I had a bouquet of flowers posted to me and I was so happy that my mother had sent me such beautiful flowers. Several days later I found out that the flowers actually came from my mother-in-law and not my mother.
I have never got over my mother having left me as a helpless baby. I could very much like her to make it up to me.
No matter how old you are you still will need your mother.