I didn’t expect my grandchildren’s foster carer to tell me that he was taking them to Nottingham , but he could have had the manners to tell their grandad. Their grandfather hasn’t seen them for almost 6 months. They are not encouraged to phone him, he rings them. He didn’t invite their grandfather to see them before driving 202 miles to see his family. They managed to tell me he was planning to buy a farm house and they could stay with him for ever. He told me they could stay until they were 25 if they wanted to. In my opinion he is grooming the boys right under the noses of the police and children’s services. He puts them up to lie about me. The last time I saw the boys they were acting completely out of character. One of them told me a fellow student ask him to lie, he went on to say ” nan you know I would never lie. A week or so later Mathew and Oliver not their real names were having lunch with their grandad when out of the blue Mathew burst into tears and claimed that I had sexually abused him. His mother took him upstairs to calm the situation. He emerged later as if nothing had happened. Their grandfather rang the foster carer and told him what had occurred. He was quite taken back by the incident and said I know, his brother has said it too. If thats the case why wasn’t the police informed.? In my opinion this boy was saying he is being sexually abused, it was a cry for help. Mathew is infatuated by the single foster carer, they are after all at a impressionable age. The boys told me the foster carer is ok but he is very strict . He actually grounded O for saying he had brushed his teeth when he hadn’t . The foster carer is excellent with their education, but he teaches them to disrespect their auntie Hayley and me. Hayley rang the boys. The one who lied about me ran ran off looking very frightened, his brother spoke to his auntie . Their grandfather told the foster care about the phone call, he said they are not supposed to phone Hayley, this proves the foster carer is hell bent on turning the boys against their family. I worry about the boys having to live in a coercive environment. Social workers turn a blind eye, the police tell me not to talk nonsence when I voice my concerns. I know my grandchildren, they would never lie or disrespect me .I was quite concerned over their weight loss around the time they came out with these allegations. I hope the foster carer , police and social workers are aware the damage they are putting on these young men. The foster carer is very disrespectful towards me, claiming that the boys couldn’t even use cutlery, cycle or swim when they came to him. My take on the foster carer , he is playing a dangerous game on two young men ,teaching them its cool to lie. I find him shifty, lack of empathy for me. He is a self-serving narcissist and cruel too. I am concerned over the foster carer’s reaction when Oliver retracted his statement. I will always be grateful to him for not taking part in lying about me. Social workers depend on most of their feed-back from foster parents and unreliable carer’s, hence too many children are fostered or adopted. Children’s services and other agencies certainly needs a good shake up . I am not at all surprised most young people leaving the care system need psychiatric support. One of my grandson’s managed to whisper to me that he was told not to keep talking about me. I am not educated to the same high standard as my grandson’s foster carer, but I would never teach them to lie and disrespect anyone. by Dorothy Maude.
Aug 22
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